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Exploring the Love of a Family
Author: Huang Qixiang (Authorized by the School of Philosophy and Social Development, Shandong University of Science and Technology and Interreligious Studies)
Source: “Literature, History and Philosophy” Issue 4, 2015
Author Author Authorization Confucian Network Published
Time: Confucius was the 27th July of the Reformation of the Reformation of Wuxu
Jesus September 6, 2018
The relationship between parents and descendants is considered to be the most secretive and extensive emotion in human society. Zhang Xianglong taught: “The natural orientation of human beings is the most important thing about the relationship between children” [①]. People generally believe that this emotion naturally exists between children. It is a well-known fact, and there is no need to investigate common sense. In any case, people will not suffer from this problem. But once we really pursue the source of family love, we find that it is not as obvious as people think, and in some cases the problems related to ethics, society, humanity, mind and philosophy are still confusing.
1. The love of a family: comes from birth or comes from cultivation?
Aristotle once said that parents love their descendants in nature, and their descendants love their parents in nature. (1155a16-19)[②] Huang Yusheng believed that blood is not the basis of affection. “If the corresponding effect is not carried out for preservation, there will be no affection between the two people. Therefore, affection is a physical concept of the effectiveness of the people being influenced by the people in their preservation, gratitude and recognition of the effectiveness of the people being influenced by the people in their preservation. href=”https://twsugarhoney520.org/”>Back to the message board and the lecture.”[③] According to this view, the complete relationship is the product of life experience. If the descendants are separated from their parents after birth, they will not be able to do so in their future careers.With the “corresponding performance and cooperation”, the program started recording again just as Ye Qiuguan was still thinking. There will be friendship in Jiabao. But the fact doesn’t seem to be like this. In fact, there are many evidences that confess that parents’ affection for their descendants is in line with “birth”, that is, they occur as parents produce descendants, and they can even last forever. A child is separated from his parents shortly after he was born. Although his parents have no one to have a day of care, they can finally get rid of him. Jobs’ parents gave him away shortly after he was born. Later, his mother said that she had always missed him and felt bitter about the work she had done. [④]
On the other hand, a person who cares about and loves children and has already cooperated with them with them. Once he learns that the child is not a child, his emotions for the child will undergo subtle or even urgent changes. According to reports, a man loved his son after he was born. When his wife divorced him, he struggled with the child’s right to nourish his children. Then he made a contract to pay all property to his son. But later he discovered that the child looked very similar to his ex-wife’s lover. The child confessed that he had no blood relationship with the child, and his ex-wife’s lover was the child’s biological father. So he sued him in court and asked to revoke his child’s care and property he granted. This seems to explain from the back that the relationship between a family is closely related to blood.
We have also seen this in our real life. Or people will take care of others after they are born, and they have never lived with their husbands. According to the views taught by Huang Yusheng, he has any feelings for his parents who are not successful. But when he grows up, he learns that his current parents are not their parents, so he is very eager to find their parents. [⑤] Once they learn about their news, he can still think of them with a brow. This shows that even from the perspective of future generations, the love of a family seems to be in harmony with “birth”.
However, there are many examples in real life. The pure blood relationship itself seems to lack the feelings of a child. The feelings of a child are formed in the process of nourishing and cooperating with the career. The reborn sons of A and B were exchanged in the hospital because of the neglect of nurses. Although they had no blood relationship with their children, they still had the same affection as those fathers and sons. Similar reports are inexplicable. Since A’s childbirth had no contact with him after giving birth and had no knowledge of each other, twenty years later, even if they sat along the way, they would not have the same feelings as each other. Anyone who has read The Jobs knows that Jobs had eaten in his biological father’s restaurant before knowing the ingredients of his biological father and shook hands with each other, but it was like two strangers who had no feelings for their children.
The father-son relationship between the Naxi people who practice visiting marriage is available to us in another example in this regard. The Naxi people in Yongning District, Ninglang County, Yunnan Province [⑥] still retain the tradition of visiting marriage, that is, men and women do not marry, and intermarriage men and women do not form cohabiting families. The man lives at his girlfriend’s house at night and returns to his home in the early morning. The descendants born to both sides are nourished by the woman. The father has no intention of raising children, but he wants to nourish the children born to his sisters. That is to say, the Naxi people who have visited marriage all live in maternal families, and only mothers are left but fathers are left in families with the same family. Because visiting marriage has preserved many group marriage characteristics that are easy to live together and easy to leave. The connection between men and women is more uncertain. The descendants born after marriage sometimes find it difficult to determine their biological father. Many descendants only know their mother but not their father, so they have no father’s concerns. Even if the biological father is known, due to their different families, the father has very little economic relationship with his descendants and is not responsible for the nourishment and teaching of his descendants. The relationship between descendants and fathers is very indifferent, and he has no meaning in his real life. [⑦Baoqiang] The indifference between the mother-son relationship of the Naxi people and the father-son relationship seems to prove to us that the feelings of the father-son are formed in the process of nourishing future generations, and also have the influence of civilization tradition on concepts.
2. The non-contradictory name of family relationshipInclusiveness
The above two views are supported by certain facts, which makes the source of family love reconciled. And the non-identical nature of the family affection makes the problem even more complicated. The non-identical nature of the relationship between a family is that the parents’ emotions towards their descendants are more than the emotions of their descendants for their parents. One of the most uncharacteristic situations is that parents have always had emotions for their descendants and no emotions for their parents. For example, Jobs’ mother always missed Jobs, and Jobs didn’t miss her until she learned about her. This kind of unfavorable familyThe love comes from the mother knows her son, but the son does not know her mother.
Another situation where the relationship between a family is not consistent, the reaction of a family member who does not know each other’s components is often not consistent after learning about each other’s components at almost the same time. According to reports, the two children, C and D, were unintentionally changed in the hospital where they were born. Fourteen years later, the two families learned about their work, and the reactions between their parents and their children were very different. Both parents attach great importance to having children, even if they have not had a day to live, while the two children pay more attention to raising their parents for a month. Both parents criticized the children for being in tune with each other, but neither of them wanted to go to their family career. This seems to show that parents’ affection for their descendants is in line with “birth”, and the affection for their descendants’ affection for their parents is formed in the process of nourishing them.
In addition to these unusual situations, we see that the emotions between children are often not correct in all circumstances. “The mother has never seen her suffering, and she is uneasy”, “The mother is not as careful as her thoughts, but not as good as her heart in the high hall”, “Who says that her heart is a little grass can lead to the spring scene” and so on are all very easy to describe this situation. In fact, philosophers from ancient times to the p
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